There you are. You’re hanging out in the bar and you’ve been seeing a multitude of different women dancing and drinking the night away. You could have been great with these women and you could have bombed with others. All that you see is that in this area, it’s a sea of people in this music-filled, liquor-laden party…..
Lights go on, music stops, and this sea of people has turned into a small room of confused individuals, who went from 8-10 in the dark to 5-6 in the light.
Now, I’m going to say people are ugly or something like that, but outside of this trick-box called a club, I’ve seen more than a few of these people in many different daytime surroundings: some at work, some on the train, library, etc, and they’re almost always meek and shy. It’s something about the feel of a dark sardine can, filled with top 40 and EDM tracks that gets them acting brand new. So ask yourself: why would you treat someone or put them on a pedestal in the nightscene, when the characters don’t match up in real life? The answer is – you don’t. Treat everyone with respect, but don’t go off making every single woman you see your Queen of the Night and not respecting yourself in the process.
There are those who exercise and there are those who don’t. For the ones who do, there are the instances when one plateaus. This could be for multiple reasons, but one of the most common ones is that they haven’t been varying their routines. If you were trying to lose weight or gain muscles, continuously doing the exercise allows your body to get used to it, and therefore, start to negate the effects. There is a thing called muscle shock where instead of the same-old same-old, you ‘shock’ your body by introducing a new routine, hence making it work actively in the process. Instead of 25 Jumping Jacks everyday, you threw in a day of situps, or another day of push-ups, etc.
This works the same for relationships, and even general communication. Never be afraid to switch it up. I’m not saying go nuts and let everything out of your mouth be random utterances. I just want you to avoid the rut at all costs. Learn about each other and what you like, but don’t be afraid to learn about new things, or refine the older interests either. ‘Shock’ your life and work their muscles.
Happy holidays to all! Make sure you guys (and gals) stay safe out this holiday. Have fun, but have fun responsibly!
Now, an occurrence I’ve seen too many guys fall victim, especially when approaching women they just met: trying to spend money on her IN THE HOPES of trying to convince her to be with you. C’MON SON!!!!
You’re definitely doing it wrong. Say you saw an attractive woman you liked. The first things out of your mouth shouldn’t be you trying to take her to a restaurant or out for a drink, etc. You are trying to buy the pussy, and in the course of it, LOWERING YOUR VALUE! What you should do is build up rapport with her. Ask her about interests, common goals, and activities AND THEN, go for an instance where the two of you can commune together. If you ask a woman out without building rapport, and she agrees to it, but after the date, she doesn’t call you back or let you get to another stage of intimacy; you can’t be mad at her. You’d have to blame yourself!
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Would you rather work at three times the rate you were working now with no change in efficiency OR work at half the rate you’re working now, but more efficient and more successful? Would you rather be the guy working 80 hours a week to make ends meet OR the guy who works 20 hours and travels the world? You want to be the guy who is an option OR an asset?
If you want to be the formers, go on about your day. You’re content. Complacent.
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The older you get, the more it will become more commonplace where instead of beer/straight up hard liquor, you will end up in situations with wine and members of the opposite sex. Not all women are hard drinkers and given safety concerns, they won’t always drink hard liquor in front of you. Wine, on the other hand, is a crowd favorite with women of all ages and eight out of ten times, she’ll use that as the sensual icebreaker/truthteller when dealing with you.
You guys need to learn your wines. I’m not saying that you need to memorize everything from your Riesling’s to your Sauvignon Blanc’s (though it helps), you should learn how to distinguish between the qualities of Red and White wines, and what foods go great with them. You may end up knowing more than she does on the matter and impressing her, leaving her with the curiosity of what else you may know about the world. Drink responsibly, of course.
When it comes to the pick-up line, you need to drop it. Like, right now. It never wins you points because once it’s said in one place, it gets spread like wildfire everywhere else (women will tell their girlfriends what was said and they’ll their friends and on and on…)
When it comes to your approach, just proceed with confidence, make sure your presentation is solid, and be natural. A pick up line will never magically sway you from being unlikeable/layable to very likeable/layable. If she liked you or didn’t like you, the line will have no sway in that. The day an overweight, acne-face filled gent living in his parent’s garage swoons a Victoria Secret model all on the merit of one cheesy pickup, will be the day I mail you a Canadian dollar and shoot myself in the head. Just be yourself, folks.
The PUA scene (Pick Up Artist) has always been a fascinating one to watch. While I don’t discredit it at all, I try to instill in the people I talk to that pick-up lines aren’t always the route to go by. More and more women become curious as to what the male populace thinks of them, and so they go and read the materials that are tailored to men. What I teach isn’t the notion of PUA, but instead understanding how women think, so that you excel with them REGARDLESS of what you say (hopefully, you aren’t talking horseshit). No matter how smooth the line, if you aren’t a guy that the woman is interested in, it won’t work for you. If you are a guy that understands her, she will be drawn to you much more.
There are protocols and procedures that are taught to you everywhere in life, and a lot of new ones stated in in my book. However, there will be instances where you have to bend the rules a bit. My personal stance on it is that if you must break any of the rules, the person you’re doing it for must return on your “investment” in doing so. If you break your rules and the person you’re pursuing doesn’t reciprocate, then you should bid them adieu and keep it moving.